The last thing you want on your mind when planning a wedding is an overestimate of the number of people attending the wedding. While you're almost certainly going to have people in attendance who did not RSVP, you can avoid a lot of pitfalls by keeping your wedding guest number in mind. Knowing how many will attend your wedding helps limit the amount of extra burden to your caterer. Fifteen extra plates is three extra tables of people! This also reduces cramped seating at the ceremony and reception. This wedding checklist helps keep everything in line.

Knowing who will be your wedding attendants is just as important. When filling out a seating chart for the wedding reception, it is important to know how many bridesmaids and groomsmen will be placed at the head table with the bride and groom. Also, there are so many responsibilities of wedding attendants that being able to delegate these to trusted friends is something every bride needs. For a stress free wedding day, here is a helpful worksheet/wedding checklist that will keep things running smoothly! (Remember though:  this needs to be done early in the wedding planning process!)

Total Guests: __________

Who's Inviting How Many:

Bride and Groom:  ___________

Groom's Parents:   ___________

Bride's Parents:     ___________

Already Included:  ___________  (Ex:  Officiant and Wife)

My Wedding Attendants: (Indicate Names On Lines)

[] Maid of Honor:  _______________________________________________

[] Bridesmaids:  (# _____ )    ______________________________________

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[] Best Man:   ___________________________________________________

[] Groomsmen:  (# _____ )    ______________________________________

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[] Additional Ushers  (# _____ )   __________________________________

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[] Ring Bearer:   _________________________________________________

[] Flower Girl:    _________________________________________________

[] Readers/Performers:  __________________________________________

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[] Other Assistants (Chuppah holders, guestbook attendant, et al):

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I get tons of questions asking me who pays for what regarding the wedding. Does the bride pay for this? Can I pay for that? Can I ask someone to pay for this? Is it ok that the bride's family isn't paying for the wedding? Though a small novella would answer all of these questions, here is a simple checklist to let you know the traditional roles in paying for the wedding. Thank you, Emily Post.

Who Pays For What? — Traditional Expenses of The Bride or Bride's Family

• The wedding consultant (wedding planner or wedding coordinator)
• Wedding invitations, enclosure cards, announcements (all wedding stationery)
• Wedding flowers which includes the bridesmaids bouquets, wedding bouquets, and any floral decorations for the ceremony and reception.
• Wedding photographer and photographs
• Wedding videographer and video
• Any music used during the ceremony and reception
• The entire reception (yup, this is the bride's responsibility in full)
• Bridesmaids gifts and attendants gifts
• The groom's wedding ring
• Carpet for the aisle, rental of awnings, etc.
• Cost of soloists and other wedding ceremony musicians/entertainment
• A traffic officer if necessary
• The bridal party's transportation to the reception
• Transportation and lodging for officiant if invited by the bride's family
• Any accommodations (lodging, fees) for the bridesmaids and attendants
• Sexton fees

Who Pays For What? — Wedding Expenses of The Groom or Groom's Family

• The marriage license
• Grooms gift to his bride
• Gifts for groomsmen, ushers, etc.
• Formal wear accessories for groomsmen if not part of the clothing rental package
• In some regions, the bridal bouquet
• The bride's going-away corsage
• Boutonnieres for the groomsmen, ushers, etc.
• Officiant's fee or donation (this is always a groom's fee and is different than accommodations)
• Transportation for groom and best man to and from the ceremony
• The honeymoon package and expenses(yup, bride gets the reception, groom gets the honeymoon)
• The rehearsal dinner
• Accommodations for groomsmen, ushers, etc.
• Bachelor dinner if one is being held
• Transportation and lodging for groom's immediate family
• Corsages for immediate members of both families unless bride includes these in her wedding flowers package
• The bride's engagement ring and wedding ring

Who Pays For What? — Wedding Expenses of the Bridesmaids or Honor Attendants

• Apparel and all accessories
• Transportation to and from the city where the wedding is being held
• Contribution to a group gift from the bridesmaids to the bride if being given
• An individual gift to the couple if given (being in the wedding may be considered one)
• A shower or luncheon for the bride if held

Who Pays For What? — Traditional Expenses of the Best Man or Ushers

• Individual wedding attire rental
• Transportation to and from the city where the wedding is being held
• Contribution to a group gift from the groomsmen to the groom
• An individual gift to the couple if given
• A bachelor dinner or luncheon if held

Who Pays For What? — Traditional Expenses of Out Of Town Guests

• Transportation to and from the wedding
• Lodging expenses
• Wedding gift

This may seem like a lot to absorb at one time. Don't worry about it! Print this list off and keep it for later. I hope this is helpful when you're creating the budget for your wedding. It's always nice to know who pays for what!

Wedding Planning Tips Congratulations! You’re getting married. Now it’s time to plan your wedding. This is a very exciting time in your relationship as you and your groom embrace the beginning of your life together. Whether it started as a burgeoning romance between friends or a romance bloomed from a chance encounter, it has now blossomed into a lifelong partnership of love and devotion. Now comes the opportunity to celebrate this blessing with friends and family.

Planning this exciting event can sometimes be a major headache. However, every bride deserves the wedding of her dreams without the stress of the hustle and bustle. Below are a few wedding planning tips and tricks to help keep this a day full of cherished memories instead of wishes for re-dos.

Hint: Use this time to embrace the help of loved ones. Ask questions of your married friends. More often than not, every bride has a tip or two for how to avoid what she has learned the hard way.

Your Wedding Checklist: 11-12 months prior to your wedding

• ___ Formally announce your engagement to both families.
• ___ Set a date!! Be sure to choose a date that accommodates your special guests (such as summer months while children are out of school and vacations are usually scheduled).
• ___ Set the budget! This is an often overlooked but extremely important task. Plan with your groom for the one or two items of most importance and budget around those few major items.
• ___Book the wedding officiant. Meet with your pastor, rabbi, or other clergyman about availability.
• ___ Select the wedding party. Including friends and family in your big day is an honor for all involved.
• ___ Reserve wedding and reception locations. Remember that reception locations for events held on or around holidays will book faster and may increase rental rates.
• ___ Shop for wedding insurance and decide if it’s a good option for you.
• ___ Hire the wedding consultant or planner.
• ___ Compile the guest list being careful to pay attention to your budget here.
• ___ Purchase a wedding planner book. Pockets make handy spots for storing receipts. Be sure to have day-to-day slots and extra space for notes. Wedding planning software may be a large help with budgeting, planning, and organizing even down to the thank you notes and seating arrangements.

Your Wedding Checklist: 9-10 months prior to your wedding

• ___ Choose and confirm the photographer. Do not be afraid to ask for portfolios.
• ___ Select and secure the caterer. Be picky! Meet your caterer and sample the foods. Don’t be scared—it is polite to ask for references. The Better Business Bureau is also a good resource for information concerning the company’s catering history.
• ___ Book the videographer. Pictures are worth a thousand words but moving pictures say much more!
• ___ Hire the florist. Your wedding flowers will be a larger part of your budget. Your florist can help you with color schemes and ideas to make your big day beautiful.
• ___ Book the musicians and/or DJ services for both your ceremony and reception.

Your Wedding Checklist: 7-8 months prior to your wedding

• ___ Shop for and order your wedding dress, veil, shoes, gloves, and other accessories. Allow time for specially made gowns, alterations and fittings.
• ___ Purchase the bridesmaid dresses as well as usher and groomsmen tuxedos.
• ___ Meet with wedding cake designers and bakers. Feel free to taste test!
• ___ Handmade wedding favors should be started now if necessary.
• ___ Plan your honeymoon! Though typical for the groom to make the arrangements, discuss options for locations and ideas. Remember to allow yourself time for any passport, immunization, and other travel needs.

Your Wedding Checklist: 6 months prior to your wedding

• ___ Purchase wedding favors.
• ___ Send save-the-date cards or contact out of town guests to confirm the final date, time, and location of the event.
• ___ Plan your rehearsal dinner.
• ___ Register for gifts. This can be a fun time for the couple as you start to see how your house will unfold. Be sure to read these handy registry tips!
• ___ Order wedding invitations and stationery. Select a calligrapher if necessary.
• ___ Select the groom’s attire and arrange purchase or rental options.
• ___ Arrange the wedding transportation. Horse-drawn carriages are a romantic idea while limousines add a celebrity-type amusement. Whatever your choice, book well in advance, especially if your wedding falls around any prom, homecoming, or other major event.
• ___ Order your wedding cake! You’ve tasted them all. Now is the perfect time to reserve the most delicious one.
• ___ Make a doctor’s appointment if your state requires a blood test for the marriage license. Check your state’s blood test time-line.

Your Wedding Checklist: 4-5 months prior to your wedding

• ___ Reserve hotels and other accommodations for out of town guests.
• ___ Buy gifts for your wedding party, parents, and betrothed. This is a very special way to say both "thank you" and "I love you."
• ___ Prepare a skin care regimen to ensure that you are a glowing bride on your special day!
• ___ Book any honeymoon needs. If using a travel agent, confirm accommodations with him or her.
• ___ Reserve any rental equipment such as tables, chairs, tablecloths, tents, et cetera if your caterer is not doing it for you.
• ___ Purchase your wedding rings! This is also a very special time for the couple. Remember your budget but also that this ring symbolizes a lifetime of unity and commitment. Make sure it’s something you’ll want to wear that long!

Your Wedding Checklist: 2-3 months prior to your wedding

• ___ Finalize the guest list.
• ___ Meet with your caterer and/or banquet manager to confirm any final details.
• ___ Schedule a final fitting for your gown. Having a bridesmaid along to learn to handle any tricky buttons and bustle your train may be helpful later!
• ___ Meet with the officiant if necessary.
• ___ Write your vows if exchanging less traditional ones.
• ___ Prepare arrangements for the rehearsal dinner.
• ___ Mail the wedding invitations. Allow 6-8 weeks for guests to schedule time away from work. For destination weddings, allow 12 weeks for scheduling.
• ___ Meet with stylists to determine which hair and makeup scheme works best for you. Book the appointments now for your wedding day.
• ___ Attend any bridal showers. Have fun! These are a celebration and some of your last parties as a "single" woman.
• ___ Complete any change of name documents if necessary. These may include passports, credit cards, bank account holders, and driver’s licenses. In most states you can not change your name until you have a valid marriage license, but prior planning will expedite the process.

Your Wedding Checklist: 1 month prior to your wedding

• ___ Send wedding announcements to local newspapers.
• ___ Apply for and obtain your marriage license.
• ___ Confirm that your attendants and other wedding party members have their wedding attire.
• ___ Confirm arrival times with any vendors such as caterers, bakers, photographers, etc.).
• ___Write and print your wedding program.
• ___ Send change-of-address information to the post office.
• ___ Write thank you notes as wedding gifts begin to arrive.
• ___ Arrange the seating plan and create place cards.
• ___ Compose toasts for the wedding rehearsal dinner and reception.

___ Wear your wedding shoes around the house on carpeted areas to "break them in."

• ___ Determine house sitter, babysitter, and/or pet sitter needs while you are on your honeymoon.
• ___ Pick up your dress.
• ___ Give your travel plans and contact information to your house sitter and family member in case of emergency.
• ___ Pack for the honeymoon and day after your wedding.
• ___ Provide wedding party with a wedding day schedule to ensure a smooth run.

Your Wedding Checklist: 1 day prior to your wedding

• ___ Relax with your company and out of town guests. Remember to get plenty of rest after any late-night bachelorette parties. Many brides enjoy a massage with the females of the wedding party before the wedding. Manicures and pedicures are another popular way to take a break and look beautiful while doing it!
• ___ Confirm transportation.
• ___ Rehearse the ceremony.
• ___ Hold a rehearsal dinner.

Your Wedding Checklist: Your Wedding Day!

Enjoy! This is your special day to shine.