Comments on: A Walk Down the Aisle: Father or Step-Father? http://www.weddingandpartynetwork.com/blog/etiquette/a-walk-down-the-aisle-father-or-step-father/ Wedding and Party Network Blog - A Community Sharing Wedding and Party Ideas Mon, 30 Nov 2009 15:41:05 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Jamie Jamison Adams http://www.weddingandpartynetwork.com/blog/etiquette/a-walk-down-the-aisle-father-or-step-father/comment-page-1/#comment-1745 Jamie Jamison Adams Mon, 10 Aug 2009 18:51:03 +0000 http://www.weddingandpartynetwork.com/blog/?p=233#comment-1745 Confused, you definitely have quite the dilemma. How would I solve this dilemma? I would not base my decision on the here & now. Instead I would have the person who contributed the most to my life - the person who supported me emotionally, financially & spiritually - the person who had the most impact on who I have become and not necessarily who I am getting a long with "at the moment" - walk me down the aisle. You won't have to leave the other father out. You can create a special moment in the ceremony in which he can participate. If you have part of the ceremony where the parents light the unity candle, let the father who didn't walk you down the aisle participate in this part of the ceremony. Or have him read a special poem or bible verse during the ceremony. Or let him make the first toast during the wedding reception. As long as you let both men know how special they are to you, I'm sure they will be willing to come to a compromise. An unconventional solution would be to have the two men walk in front of you down the aisle. One father could escort place the groom's hand in yours as the other father gives your hand to the groom. You are evidently a very caring individual and both men are lucky to have you as their daughter. Confused, you definitely have quite the dilemma. How would I solve this dilemma? I would not base my decision on the here & now. Instead I would have the person who contributed the most to my life – the person who supported me emotionally, financially & spiritually – the person who had the most impact on who I have become and not necessarily who I am getting a long with "at the moment" – walk me down the aisle.

You won't have to leave the other father out. You can create a special moment in the ceremony in which he can participate. If you have part of the ceremony where the parents light the unity candle, let the father who didn't walk you down the aisle participate in this part of the ceremony. Or have him read a special poem or bible verse during the ceremony. Or let him make the first toast during the wedding reception.

As long as you let both men know how special they are to you, I'm sure they will be willing to come to a compromise.

An unconventional solution would be to have the two men walk in front of you down the aisle. One father could escort place the groom's hand in yours as the other father gives your hand to the groom.

You are evidently a very caring individual and both men are lucky to have you as their daughter.

]]> By: Confused? http://www.weddingandpartynetwork.com/blog/etiquette/a-walk-down-the-aisle-father-or-step-father/comment-page-1/#comment-1734 Confused? Fri, 07 Aug 2009 22:10:58 +0000 http://www.weddingandpartynetwork.com/blog/?p=233#comment-1734 I am getting married in March and I am SO confused about who to choose to walk me down the aisle. My dad and I are not as close much anymore I pretty much only see him on the holidays, but we are trying to get past all of that and move forward and be in each others lives as much as possible. He also bought my wedding dress. My step father has been in my life for 12 years and he has taken care of me and he considers me his daughter. However, we have had many differences lately. They both have mentioned having an interest in walking me down the aisle and giving me away. I was going to have them both walk me down the aisle because I love them both and dont want to hurt their feelings. However, the church aisle is not big enough :( .. so what should I do? How do I choose between the man that gave me life and has pretty much been shut out of my other siblings lives and the man that has raised me but we have quite a few differences? I am getting married in March and I am SO confused about who to choose to walk me down the aisle. My dad and I are not as close much anymore I pretty much only see him on the holidays, but we are trying to get past all of that and move forward and be in each others lives as much as possible. He also bought my wedding dress. My step father has been in my life for 12 years and he has taken care of me and he considers me his daughter. However, we have had many differences lately. They both have mentioned having an interest in walking me down the aisle and giving me away. I was going to have them both walk me down the aisle because I love them both and dont want to hurt their feelings. However, the church aisle is not big enough :( .. so what should I do? How do I choose between the man that gave me life and has pretty much been shut out of my other siblings lives and the man that has raised me but we have quite a few differences?

]]> By: Brynn Jackson http://www.weddingandpartynetwork.com/blog/etiquette/a-walk-down-the-aisle-father-or-step-father/comment-page-1/#comment-1117 Brynn Jackson Tue, 10 Mar 2009 13:20:21 +0000 http://www.weddingandpartynetwork.com/blog/?p=233#comment-1117 Krystle, that's wonderful! First, congratulations. Second, what prompted you to choose your brother? I think it's a very sweet idea. Krystle, that's wonderful! First, congratulations. Second, what prompted you to choose your brother? I think it's a very sweet idea.

]]> By: Krystle Dawn http://www.weddingandpartynetwork.com/blog/etiquette/a-walk-down-the-aisle-father-or-step-father/comment-page-1/#comment-1113 Krystle Dawn Tue, 10 Mar 2009 04:22:25 +0000 http://www.weddingandpartynetwork.com/blog/?p=233#comment-1113 I'm getting married in June, and my father has never been a big part of my life. My seventeen year old brother is doing the honors, and I couldn't be more pleased. I'm getting married in June, and my father has never been a big part of my life. My seventeen year old brother is doing the honors, and I couldn't be more pleased.

]]> By: Jamie Jamison Adams http://www.weddingandpartynetwork.com/blog/etiquette/a-walk-down-the-aisle-father-or-step-father/comment-page-1/#comment-1084 Jamie Jamison Adams Fri, 27 Feb 2009 15:33:03 +0000 http://www.weddingandpartynetwork.com/blog/?p=233#comment-1084 The real question any bride should ask when deciding who walks her down the aisle is this "who's actions provide the stability, love, and support of a "father figure" in the crucial and day to day aspects of her life." For some it will be their father, for other a step-fathers and in many cases it will be a grandfather, an uncle, a brother, a brother-in-law and even a family friend. Keep in mind giving the bride away is an honor and not a requirement. The bride is not required to have her father give her away. It is the bride"s way to honor the person who provided stability, love, support and guidance in her life. So, if her grandfather is the person who provided all of these things then he should be the one to give her away. The real question any bride should ask when deciding who walks her down the aisle is this "who's actions provide the stability, love, and support of a "father figure" in the crucial and day to day aspects of her life." For some it will be their father, for other a step-fathers and in many cases it will be a grandfather, an uncle, a brother, a brother-in-law and even a family friend. Keep in mind giving the bride away is an honor and not a requirement. The bride is not required to have her father give her away. It is the bride"s way to honor the person who provided stability, love, support and guidance in her life. So, if her grandfather is the person who provided all of these things then he should be the one to give her away.

]]> By: Paul http://www.weddingandpartynetwork.com/blog/etiquette/a-walk-down-the-aisle-father-or-step-father/comment-page-1/#comment-1082 Paul Fri, 27 Feb 2009 01:16:35 +0000 http://www.weddingandpartynetwork.com/blog/?p=233#comment-1082 Yes, but what if the step father is a deadbeat and the grandfather has bought the bride a car, paid for school, and covered many of the family expenses over the years? Should the bride consider the grandfather? Yes, but what if the step father is a deadbeat and the grandfather has bought the bride a car, paid for school, and covered many of the family expenses over the years? Should the bride consider the grandfather?

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