Ask The Celebration Advisor: Hi, Is it appropriate to wear a nice style black dress (knee length) to a GA wedding. The ceremony & reception are indoors and start at 5:00 p.m. The mother of the groom & her mother shared that they didn't think it was appropriate. I emailed the bride and she indicated that it's absolutely fine & appropriate and that i would probably not be the only one wearing black.
We are from the north (Maine)and I have heard that it's o.k. to wear black, especially if it's in the evening. If the bride is fine, should i worry about what the brides parents might think? My thoughts are that black is in now, but i don't want to offend anyone. I was hoping to get a perspective from the pros. Thanks for any
advice/feedback.~ Sharon
The Celebration Advisor: Wearing black? A woman after my own heart! The answer to your question is a simple one. Wedding attire etiquette is on your side with this one. Yes, it is now acceptable to wear a formal black dress (knee-length or longer) to a wedding. However, traditionally one would stray from black as it is a color reserved for highly formal occasions or funerals.
Though you are well within wedding attire etiquette to wear black, I would consider the mindset of the people at the wedding before making your decision. Southerners are big into the more traditional wedding etiquette and way of doing things. Therefore, the mothers of the couple will not be the only ones judging you based on a black dress. Southerners usually associate dark colors with funerals. Therefore even for an evening wedding it will not be well regarded in the South to wear black wedding attire.
If you are attending a less traditional wedding (which can be assumed since the bride is ok with it), you will be okay to wear black according to wedding attire etiquette. The bride is right that many women wear black to weddings these days so you will not feel alone. Just consider the understood practices of Southerners for this wedding.
Thanks so much for your response. You have given me much to think about. I appreciate your advice. Sharon
You are very welcome. I have worn black to a wedding in Southern Missouri, just a few miles away from northeast Arkansas. Personally, I felt ridiculous in the black even though it’s my favorite color to wear and everyone knows it. I was indeed the only one wearing the color while the rest of the guests were in bright colors. Then again, it was an afternoon wedding.
So, it really is up to you and how you would feel knowing that the rest of the people may be slightly judgmental about it. That’s also their hang-up so go with what will make YOU comfortable since you have the bride’s approval.