Ask The Celebration Advisor: How could I eloquently ask for cash gifts and/or store certificatest instead of presents at the wedding? ~ Casey
The Celebration Advisor: Typically, giving cash wedding gifts is a big no-no according to traditional wedding etiquette. However, modern weddings are seeing a huge spike in the request for cash gifts or gift cards instead of presents. Don't stress about cash wedding gift etiquette though! When you're in a pinch and need to find out how to go about asking for cash instead, simply remember these things.
* You will want to make this request where you would have announced your registry. It is also a traditional duty of the maid of honor and best man to spread this information around. Make sure those two parties are aware of your wedding gift suggestion as well.
* You can politely request money without asking for cash outright which would likely offend older guests. Instead, list things like these where you would normally announce your registry:
- "Bride and groom respectfully request cash gifts in lieu of wedding presents."
- "Bride and groom respectfully request cash gifts or gift cards to *your favorite 'home' store* in lieu of wedding presents."
You can also substitute your name and your groom's name for "bride and groom" as this will personalize it a bit. Keep in mind though that personalization is great for younger guests but maintaining a more traditional tone will help soften any offense that older guests may have.
* You can announce that you will be having a cash money tree at your wedding/wedding reception instead of wedding gifts. I have been to many weddings that prefer this option because it's fast and easy. Still, guests should be warned in advance.
I hope your wedding goes as smoothly as announcing your cash wedding gift preference. Best of luck!
Would if be acceptable in an Asian wedding to request Red Envelopes in lieu of gifts on the wedding invitation?
In many Chinese weddings it is acceptable to give red envelopes with cash as a wedding present. However, asking for money is usually a big wedding etiquette no-no. If you must ask for cash, Do Not use the wedding invitation as a way to let guests know. Instead place it on gift registries or have your attendants spread the word. Some modern couples are setting up special accounts that guests can contribute to, such as a honeymoon or house account. These accounts are listed on the bridal registry.